Why I'm writing about this

I’ve read through countless websites, scrolled through hundreds of forums and message boards, watched radiography seminars on YouTube, poured over PhD theses, scientific journals and blogs, and come across so many brave women and families who have experienced similar prenatal diagnosis. I have learned so much and found comfort in both science, and the strength of real people, as I have read their stories. I am a private person, and have been particularly private about my pregnancy, but have decided to share this difficult time in the hopes that it could help even one other mum out there, who might be going through the same.

One thing we never asked ourselves was “Why us?” Because we’re realistic. Why not us? Nature doesn’t care about your religion, your income, your culture, your job, your circumstances. We didn’t do anything wrong. We’re healthy, happy, and hopefully productive people who do our best and love our families. Lately, everything feels so beyond our control. But then we’ve stepped back and realised, that nothing is in our control—ever. We can lull ourselves into thinking that it is, but it’s not. As we try to accept that, we aren't disheartened by it. The way we see it, Junebug has already given us so much. This experience isn’t easy, it’s raw and painful and confusing and disorientating—but it’s also offered so much clarity. So much has been put in perspective, and we’re learning more about ourselves and each other, every day.

I would love the chance to thank Junebug and tell them all about it one day. Where there is life, there is hope.